It is kind of tough being someone who has never had a child of their own living among parents. They tend to look at you and think, what do you know, you never had a kid!
I had accepted my life and was facing spinsterhood head on. A wonderful man entered my life and saved me from that. Though, I was much too old at that point to have kids.
So, no, I never had a kid but I have two eyes and have observed the varied techniques that parents use. I get an idea of what works, and what doesn’t.
I see the result of the different ways people use.
Heck, I learned from my own parents as to what worked and didn’t. I was spoiled, I will openly admit that. I loved my parents both so very much, and miss them with every fiber of my being! Might I have turned out better had I had more chores? I had no set chores; I cleaned up after myself and did dishes when necessary. But my dad liked to do dishes- he said it got his hands clean. But I knew how to do them and could do them when I was home alone, or when I got out on my won. Had I wanted for something rather than never have wanted for things? Maybe, I might be better at managing money. I might be a better cook, housekeeper.
Pampering your child may be what you want to do, and to a degree it is fine. But there is a line you cross when it becomes too much and your child won’t learn to do anything on their own, be independent, or apt to take initiative to do something on their own. It can hinder their move into adulthood.
Chores, again, fine to a degree. You face a line to cross too. Yes, it does them good to have chores, responsibilities, they learn from this, how to take care of themselves on their own. It can ease their transition into living on their own.
But, hello, don’t burden them with too much they are only children once.
Don’t make them your slaves, and don’t be a slave to them!
But, what do I know? I am just an old lady who never had any kids, guess it is good I have only had cats, because I would have made a terrible parent.
My next mission....how do you not let things frustrate you....is it possible with out taking a pill?
